Why are men bashed for admiring women who choose to remain virgin or celibate for marriage?

"Some" women have or flings with men they really see's no future in, but later in life want to find a man that thinks of her more than just a person to have with (respect). Why is it ok for a woman to reduce herself to "merely a person to have with" when it's to her benefit (acquiring ), but if a man doesn't want that kind of woman, wants a woman that doesn't see herself as "merely a person to have with", he's labeled judgmental or insecure? Basically, why do "some" women place so little value on (more open) when immediate gratification is the prime desire.but at the same time, want another category of man to earn it with love and commitment when it's to her benefit (acquiring a husband/"good" guy), when that very intimate act was simply given away in the past? The exact same can be asked of men, in being players for fun while young,but then wanting a innocent wife. But if women can realize the blatant hypocrisy in that example, why can't they see it from a man's point of view, but instead choose to ridicule?